Women... What to do?

[XakEp]

Well, I already have one, my problem is one that I think that quite a few people have... That is, their woman thinks that racing and cars is stupid and dangerous... Steph wants me to get rid of my car cause she thinks its too fast (fat fucking chance) and get a Saturn. No comments James... That damn Saturn is STILL faster than you...

Anyhow, those of you with women that oppose your car hobby, how do you deal with it or move past it? Hal? John? Anyone?

[john]

Laura thinks it's childish, and for the most part, I guess it is. We've disucussed it a lot, and I've finally decided to put most of the effort that I was putting into car stuff back into the family relationships, house stuff, etc.

It's a balancing act. And, men are wired differently than women. We have this inborn need to compete. I take one or 2 car days/nights out with the guys per month, no more.

Once more attention is paid to the more domestic issues, -some- time spent doing car stuff/with car guys seems to balance out.

Are you married? If so, then the discussions take on a whole new meaning. If not, she should have input to car decisions, but the final decision is yours.

$0.02 worth.

[XakEp]

We arent married yet, but we are engaged... I'm pretty much at the point with the car that I'm not getting any major mods done anytime soon so thats not an issue, she just thinks that its dangerous and pathetic, and I have no idea how to explain it to her. I've been planning to take the car to Bandy today for the first time ever for months now, and she came up to me last night and said that she doesnt want me to race the car at all... How am I supposed to deal with that?

and FYI - I'm racing tonight...

[hoffman]

i'm no marriage couselor by ay means. and i just happen to get lucky and find a girl that likes racing too. it just sounds like she needs a hobby. or she needs to understand that racing on the track is fine and safe.

maybe she does something that you don't approve of. try telling her that even though she does it, you accept her for it and don't expect her to change becuase of it. then maybe she'll accept the fact that you race, even though she doesn't like it.

[t04ef]

my ex-girlfriend (of 2 years) was kind of the same way.
I took her to the track one time though and she liked it. Now she didn't wanna go every week, but every few months was ok.
I figured out soon that for every hour spent working on the car, I had to spend 2 hours with her hehe.
Just plan things out. As much as you love each other, your still going to have different interests. Let her do her thing every now and then, and you do yours.
But keep your focus on what's important, it is just a car.

[sherrie91nt]

I must be deranged or something because I love drag racing, working on cars and car shows. I go to Pheonix and Las Vegas once a year just to go see my Dad drag race. And then I wonder why I dont have a boyfriend....hhmmm.
Anyways you should both have yourself a hobby and let each other enjoy it even if you don't get to do it together. There has got to be a little give n take on both ends and she should understand this. You gotta give each other room to do what you like. That's my .02, even though i am a girl I just had to say something......:cool:

[OneSlowEclipse]

I know the feeling... not so much about racing but about modding. So for me the choice was simple.... stop modding my damn car and focus on my life!! There are plenty of things more important than the car. As for your situation Quinn... yeah I would just emphasize to her that it is something you enjoy doing. Your racing in a controlled seting (most of the time) and its really not that dangerous. She probably won't understand still, but I am sure she will come around if you continue to talk about it.

[XakEp]

yeah... I was worried boaut steph but I was lucky that Dave and a few other people were there that could tell her how safe this was while i was racing... She even rode with me twice and now loves it!

She had been having doubts about us getting married while I did something as dangerous as racing, but as long as I dont race on the streets she doesnt mind it so much...